Seeking Validation on Social Media

The other day I had a moment of despair; it was the grim realisation that almost none of my friends bother to read the blog posts I spend so many hours writing and editing. For awhile I have been bugging them to read, to comment and to share; to support my dreams and help me grow. I posted status after status calling for help, but my friends didn’t respond. I’ll be honest here, the frustration and hurt left me sunk deep in a pit of apathy and self-loathing- if I couldn’t even get my friends to care about what I was writing, how on earth would anyone else ever be interested? I had thoughts of deleting social media, deactivating accounts and taking a break from writing. But of course I didn’t because like all of the writers I’ve ever admired, I decided to share the experience and write about it instead.

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What’s New For Lush Lakeside? | Bloggers Event| July 2017

There’s always something a little magical about stepping in to your local Lush, isn’t there? It’s a combination of things I think. The slightly dark, moody spot-lighting, the incredible displays of potion-like skin treatments and wooden boxes stuffed with vivid bath bombs and bubble bars. And then there’s the smell. If you’re a Lush fan you’ll know what I mean. The hypnotic scent snakes its’ way down the street, luring you in from afar…

What could be more magical than that? Well, a Lush with exciting new goodies to discover, of course! So when Lush Lakeside asked me to pop down and have a look at some of the wonderful new products (and some underrated products too) I could hardly contain my excitement.

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100th Blog Post!

Today is a special day over here at Pretty Little Finch. If you hadn’t already guessed by the title, this post is the 100th to be published up on the blog!

It’s been a bit of a whirlwind two years really. When I first started Pretty Little Finch it was a journal of sorts. Something to help me remember the good times when I wasn’t feeling so great, and an outlet for me to share all the thoughts swirling around up inside my brain. But as time has passed it has developed and grown. Looking back at some of my earlier posts I find there’s so much I want to rewrite!

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A Very Fruity Lush Kitchen Haul

After a little dry spell of around four weeks, the Lush Kitchen suddenly became very exciting again. What with it being Summer and Wimbledon being on, the Kitchen decided to release lots of fruity/strawberry goodies. As you may or may not know, I’m allll about those sweet scents so these past couple of weeks have been amazing for me!

Here’s what I picked up.

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Wildflowers

Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that make us stop and think about life as we know it.

Recently I found myself in such a situation, and it prompted me in to thinking about circumstance; about how we can’t always curate our lives no matter the planning we put in, no matter the hours we spend obsessing and constructing.  I am one of those people who cannot stand leaving things to chance. I have to have a plan; even if the plan is wonky or flawed there has to be something in place – it’s what keeps my bones together.

When I was 15 I decided I would grow up to be a journalist. Although my plans altered and adapted as time and situations passed it was still a path I followed in my mind and in my actions. At a certain age I’d marry. Then I’d have kids. Then a dog would follow. Everyone thinks like that, to some extent – I’m not alone in my ignorance. In my mind there was a linear timeline of events that would pan out through my life; everything would happen in the order that I had imagined for it.

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But then life threw a curve-ball at me. And then another. And another. On it went and each time something new and unplanned was hurled at me I would adapt – because that’s what we are born to do. The plan would be revisited. Re-imagined. Tailored to suit the new situation – for better or for worse. It wasn’t ideal, no. It wasn’t what I had originally wanted for myself; but it was okay. And actually, I was quietly proud of myself for being able to survive the things I didn’t think I ever could have. When a therapist told me that I was resilient I congratulated myself on it, thinking it was a strength I possessed that would see me through anything that was thrown my way.

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But I was wrong again.

Because you see, even the best laid plans can fall apart. And even the strongest or most resilient of people can struggle to pick up the pieces after something bad has happened in their life. And even if you think you’re ready to take anything on, the chances are you’re not.

So when this latest bad news was delivered to me, I finally came to understand that although I thought I was prepared for sadness, upheaval, change etc… I really was not. And in part I still think it’s down to the fact that I hadn’t planned for this to happen so I hadn’t ever imagined it as a scenario that could play out. It made me think that I had a taken a lot for granted, just expecting things to be a given because well, I was too ignorant to imagine an alternative.

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Now I feel as if I finally understand the fickle nature of life. And I’m just about beginning to wrap my head around the idea that you can’t truly plan a single thing in life; each day is precious and you never know what’s around the corner. But that’s not where this post ends.

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I still believe in planning a future. I still believe in hoping for things. I won’t stop trying to carve the path I want for myself and my life even if in the end those plans don’t come to fruition. I won’t give up on my hope for a better future.

That said, I will appreciate and treasure the smaller things in life that I failed to appreciate and treasure before all of this happened. I will stop taking things and people for granted. I will not overestimate my ability to cope when things are tough. And I will take each day as it comes. Each day of rain, of wind and of storm.

Because like a wildflower, I will seek beauty in the bleakest of landscapes. Moments of happiness in a time that stretches ahead with uncertainty.

Like a wildflower, I will grow where I am planted. I have to bloom and strive towards the sun in order to survive- we all do.

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Art Swaps; The Enamel Pin Edit

Disclaimer: This is not a sponsored post and I have not been gifted or paid to write it. I just wanted to share some cool artists and spread the (enamel pin) love!

When I started my Etsy shop Pretty Little Finch, I knew I wanted to create my own enamel pin. My personal collection is rather impressive; I just love the way a few well chosen pins can add a playful twist to any outfit. When I listed the Pastel Blue Tit in my shop I was excited to sell it, but didn’t think for one moment about the potential of swapping with other artists.

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A Family Day Out

I’m going to be diplomatic here; this wasn’t the best day out we’ve ever had (for reasons that will become clear later on in the post) however it wasn’t the worst. I really hate writing anything that could be construed as negative to a business; I’m not about throwing that negative energy out in to the world, but in the same vein I don’t like to lie/sugar-coat or pretend something was amazing when it wasn’t. So for those reasons I’m going to refrain from mentioning the name of the place we visited and instead focus on what we got up to. So here’s a little family day post for you!

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